As much as writing is an emotional experience, it is a business as well. Coming from a business background, I treat it as such.
For 'Never Knowing,' I outlined it and then blocked it out on my office wall with index cards, but things still happened organically.
I didn't go to university or get a degree, but I hired somebody as a mentor - and that I considered my university education.
I was supposed to be cleaning out the barn, but I was usually reading romance novels. That's how you grow up to be a thriller writer.
If you want to become a writer, you do need to be willing to make sacrifices.